It’s been 20 years as a married pair! But it’s been this past year that has brought so much thought and reflection about our relationship as we pushed and pulled on our old beliefs, asking questions, seeking wise counsel, and solidifying what we really believe.

I have never publicly talked about our miscarriages because I did not allow myself to think or feel much about them. Even when we lost the twin to our oldest, I focused on pushing all the feelings down really deep so I could keep going, keep working, keep pushing through and move on. I framed these as factual events in my mind, nothing more. And then….

Y’all...a thing happened today that shifted my thinking about the word “yet.” You see, I’m a believer in Carol Dweck’s work on mindset. You know, a fixed mindset is one where someone believes qualities and talents are un-change-able. A growth mindset is one where someone believes qualities and talents can be fostered, nurtured, and grow. And I’ve just always added to word “yet” to any fixed mindset statements I make to shift my mindset to growth . For example: “I can’t do a headstand...yet!” See what happened there?? Fixed to growth with one simple word! I have banked on “yet” more times than I care to admit. And it has been magical. Until today.

Knowing gratitude is the antidote to fear, I have been intentional about focusing on gratitude and finding joy during the pandemic.  I’ll save some of the details for a future post, but wanted to tell you what is high on my gratitude/joy list right now and I want to hear what’s on yours! 

Here they are in no particular order: