A Moment

February 28, 2023

I’ve been working on my language for a long time. On coming alongside instead of rushing to fix and rescue. On fostering independence and agency and consent. On normalizing asking for help.

It’s a process that will never be complete.

But it’s exciting to see when it comes a bit more naturally.

Like in a brief beautiful moment I had with one of my children this week.

This child was walking and carrying something pretty heavy and awkward. I could tell this child was proud of being able to do it.

And also, I could tell this child was struggling a bit to keep going.

As I walked alongside, I quietly said, “I’m noticing how heavy those are and how well you are carrying them. Let me know if you want a little help at any point. I’m happy to jump in.”

We continued walking together.

A few moments later, this child looked over and asked for me to take over.

“Of course. You were doing great. And it is so good that you knew when you needed help. Thank you for asking me. I’m proud of you.”

I want my kids to know they are seen. That they can manage big and hard things. That they can ask for help. And I will be here to support them through it.