Cheers to 21!

March 31, 2022

We always thought we had a good marriage. From the outside looking in, everything looked great. And people often told us so.

Until we started peeling back the layers. Learning more about ourselves. More about each other. More about how we unintentionally hurt each other over and over and over.

And the thing about unintentional hurt is it leads to more hurt. Resentment. Anger. Shame. Shutting down. Not taking about the hard stuff. Not being open. Building walls.

It takes a lot of courage to look all that in the eyes. To take it on instead of running away. To own our parts in it. To actively work to heal and change and learn to love ourselves so we can love each other more fully.

We have shifted from the belief that marriage is for life. We now believe marriage is an active choice.

We keep choosing each other.

I am incredibly grateful for a partner who is choosing to grapple with old beliefs, intentionally grow, and actively seek love. I am incredibly grateful for a partner who supports me in doing the same.

Cheers to year 21.