Safe People

December 6, 2023

I was at an event recently.

And you know how your body remembers? Well, I saw someone across the room and my body reacted to past trauma.

This has happened before so I know how to recognize it in my body now.

I was in a crowd. And I wanted to run. But I know this was a protective response so I asked myself what I needed. I needed a moment and I needed safe connection.

So I took a deep breath. And I went immediately over to someone safe for me in the crowd. I verbalized what I was feeling. And she made space for me.

The funny thing about safe people is that you have to be open and vulnerable and willing to be hurt and letting yourself be fully seen to find them - a lot of trusting and finding out who thinks you are too much and who appreciates who you are.

My safe people are the ones who show up and hold space and hold confidence and let me be fully myself without judgement. Who make space next to me and tell me they’ve got me.

It has taken a long time and a lot of pain to find my people. And I know it is a privilege to have a network of support surrounding me. One for which I am so incredibly grateful.