Messages to Myself

February 14, 2024

I’m having dinner on Valentine’s Day with a party of one. And I’m here for it.

During these solo dates, I typically write or reflect. Tonight, I chose to write out my early childhood messages. I try to write them every day and have worked intentionally to memorize and internalize them.

I’ve been doing this since April 14th, 2023. The date surprised be when I looked back tonight. Exactly ten months.

I haven’t shared this practice in this space because these messages feel really personal.

But I also know how much they have helped me and think it’s time to share here.

See, these messages are really helpful to internalize as young children. And if we didn’t internalize them when we are young, it’s not too late!

We can begin internalizing them now as a way to foster self-love.

When I first started writing them, it felt silly. Strange. Awkward. I had difficulty memorizing them. I still don’t have them in order. But I have the sentiments pretty solidly in my brain.

And during some intense moments over the past 6 months, when my emotional tank has been flooded, seemingly ready to burst, I have closed my eyes and reminded myself of whatever messages from the list come to mind. I repeat them to myself. Over and over. I take deep breaths. And calm has come washing over me.

It’s a tool. One that has fostered more self-compassion, more self-love, more self-care.

This tool was given to me by a friend. Please consider it my Valentine’s Day gift to you.

Early Childhood Messages:

~ I love you.

~ I want you.

~ You are special to me.

~ I see you and I hear you.

~ It’s not what you do but who you are that I love.

~ I love you and I give you permission to be different than me.

~ I’ll take care of you.

~ I’ll be there for you. I’ll be there for you, even when I die.

~ You don’t have to be alone anymore.

~ You can trust me.

~ You can trust your inner voice.

~ Sometimes I will tell you, “no,” and that’s because I love you.

~ You don’t have to be afraid anymore.

~ My love will make you well.

~ I welcome and cherish your love.